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Do you have a disability etiquette question? A difficult social situation you would like a different take on? Questionable advice is available here.

Don't Confuse Cruelty with Honesty

It's easy to do

Don't Confuse Cruelty with Honesty

It's common to confuse things that look alike.

Cruelty is a sneaky little worm. It's also talented in that it can hide behind it's fraternal twin Honesty. Sometimes Cruelty even borrows Honesty's favorite outfit. Not cool..

I'm referring to when people use a person's disability and their own inability to deal with it as a reason / excuse to end a relationship, whether it be a friendship, a business partnership or the biggest of all, a personal relationship.

The reasons are usually trivial and show the other person as the shallow unsophisticated (and therefore undateable) individuals they are, but they're delivered in earnest which is why I think they think it's ok..

Lost in Translation

Lost in Translation

Some words and phrases aren't found in the usual tourist guides, so here are a few that you may have heard in cripworld - translated into cripspeak.

If that happened to me I'd kill myself.

Translation: why are you here? In my mind your life is worthless, so much so that I'll say it to your face in the guise of a compliment because I really don't think you're smart enough to get it and if you do, I don't actually care because, well, as I said, I would rather be dead than you. ☺

Why don't you have handles on the back of your chair?

Why don't you have handles on the back of your chair?

Everything in the disabled world is about safety. Ridiculously slow lifts, sheltered workshops, disability tax to every level of unwanted consultancies.. this is no different.

It's to keep you safe.

Touching my chair is like grabbing my ass without my permission. It's not welcome and when people do that, no matter how well intentioned, I react poorly. And by poorly I mean..

My Top 10 List

Things I DEMAND You Know.

My Top 10 List

I've been seeing a lot of these Top 10 things wheelers... amputees... whatever.. want you to know.. and guess what, they are ALL WRONG.

Just kidding - they're not wrong, they just missed a spot. BUT you do not have to panic. I'm here to fix it for you. Because I'm good like that ☺

Get comfy because I'm going to give you a lot of information in a very short time, so please save any questions you may have to the end.